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i’m tanya, a starter, curious adventurer, lover of innovation and technology. my habit is to ask everyone I meet, are you surviving or are you thriving?

born and raised on a farm in south africa, i took my first flight at 5 days old. after 14 years of ‘push through’ city living i’m paying more attention to my nature, living my dreams and aligning myself with my own values! yes, it’s taken allot longer than i’d imagined but it feels right, most of the time, so i keep moving forward.

questions? please email me at enzaliving (at) gmail (dot) com

13 thoughts on “About

  1. What a wonderful and inspiring share 🙂
    Thank you!!
    I wish you a thriving experience all along the way and an even deeper connection with yourself.

  2. Hi Tanya,
    You’ve asked me to share something on your blog, so here goes. I hope this works, as modern technology is not my strong suit!

    Lately I have been haunted by an excerpt from Rainer Maria Rilke’s “Letters to a Young Poet”. I would love to claim I came upon a yellowed, musty copy of the book while rummaging through my extensive literature library, but alas, I heard it on a rerun of “Brothers & Sisters” a popular dramedy which airs on ABC on Sunday nights in the States. Anyway, in the scene, Kevin gives a copy of the book to his soap- opera-actor-heartthrob boyfriend Chad, and before opening the book, Chad recites it by heart: “…. love is difficult. For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation.” Those lines have stayed with me for several days now, and I feel they relate to the quest for self-love and acceptance as well as the longing for relatedness to another. And so, I visited my local library after work today, where I now sit, where I stumbled upon the following passage, which has also grabbed my mind and heart.
    “There is only one thing you should do. Go into yourself. Find out the reason that commands you to write: see whether it has spread its roots into the very depths of your heart; confess to yourself whether you would have to die if you were forbidden to write. This most of all: ask yourself in the most silent hour of your night: must I write? Dig into yourself for a deep answer. And if this answer rings out in assent, if you meet this solemn question with a strong, simple “I must,” then build your life in accordance with this necessity; your whole life, even into its humblest and most indifferent hour, must become a sign and witness to this impulse.”

    So… must I write? The question begs to be answered, and I hope that more will be revealed. For today, I am grateful to you, my friend, for encouraging me to start.

    Much love,

  3. tanya,

    love your blog!!! you are so jammin’…

    about the quote: “be as you wish to seem”, that one i’m not too sure about but i believe writer anne lamott said “be the person you’d love to meet”….also go to http://www.quoteland.com and tap into their WHO SAID IT page; i get answers from the world over in a matter of minutes!

    keep up your inspirational work here!
    love, eileen

  4. Excellent blog Tanya- I had the chance to read your entries through a comment you posted through Timothy Ferriss’ blog. I wish you continued success with your goal regarding survivors of sexual abuse- I’m a parent of two adopted daughters and we are working through their pasts one issue and day at a time. Keep up the good work!

  5. Hi Tanya,

    I’m a friend of Amy Behrens’ and live in the Boston area. Amy told me about your documentary on women who have survived sexual abuse and are now thriving. If you are still looking for more people to interview, I thought you might be interested in knowing about The Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute. They are an organization who work with people who have survived trauma and there are people there who do work with yoga. They also do research but I don’t know if they have any projects related to yoga right now. They might.

    Although of course they couldn’t give you names, I wonder if they might tell you of a place you could post a flyer or something like that. It may be a longshot in terms of being able to get people this way, but I think you might be interested in at least knowing of the work they are doing at The Trauma Center.

    And, if you need to have a flyer posted somewhere in the Boston area, I would be happy to do it for you. (I wasn’t sure how far you might be traveling to interview people. But, I know Amy would love it if you happened to have to come to Boston to interview someone. 🙂 I would love to meet you, too.

    Oh, and I have started to do yoga myself and am very interested in learning more about it. (I am a psychologist-in-training and work with adolescents. )

    Anyway, good luck on your project!!!!
    Amy Parker

  6. Hi, I just wanted to say well done on the brilliant project you are doing. I built a website last month to reach other survivors or sexual abuse. Anything which breaks the silence is a good thing. All the best for the project…Kate x

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