Children

Once again a big Thank you to http://www.gothamgal.com, Joanna lead me to http://www.foundlingmuseum.org.uk/exhibit_temp.php which I went to see today! The current exhibition, which sadly I think ends tomorrow is fantastic! It shows excerpts from disabled children’s books. Authors such as Jacqueline Wilson and Helen Thornhill (“Every kid is different”) I was very moved by the written dedication at the end titled”Children”,

“Every child and every generation of children, throughout history and across the globe represents the future. In many cultures the child is revered. Just as the elderly person or the mother is revered in other cultures.

But the child, naturally trusting and full of love, is also uniquely vulnerable. Vulbnerable to active, wilful cruelty and abuse by individuals. But also vulnerable to the passive neglect of individuals or entire societies, that do not love, cherish, protect and nuture their children, who are their future. We were our parents future.

Today, our children, across the globe, are our future.

They are our individual and collective responsibilities and none more so than the vulnerable, the abandoned, the sick, the hungary and the unloved.

The courageous, shining example of Captain Coram continues to illumitate the way forward, perhaps today more than ever before.”

I was reminded of my mother throughout the whole museum. She was 16 when she became pregnant with me. Her step farther, whom she lived with at the time, was running for mayor in the town I was born in called Durban. It hit home to me how tough it must have been for my mother as she was banished to a home so no one would find out that she was expecting a child at that young age and out of wedlock. But, the big thing that hit me today was that she was due to put me up for adoption. Even after I was born she did not see me because in those days, if you were giving your child up for adoption you signed the papers without seeing the child. Only, my mother could not do it, she was brave to keep me, to go against her parents demands (wishes…..) and I am so very very happy she did. My grandparents on my farthers side were waiting in the wings, always offering their support without pressure, just constant cushion for my mother to lean on. I felt enourmous gratitude to my mother and my grandparents today, it could very easily have been a very different situation.

I also discovered the oldest children’s charity in England their today http://www.coram.org.uk/ super discovery too!

OH and special mention has to go to my very delicious lunch, thanks to http://www.arancinibrothers.com – A simle but delicious arancini risotto ball with fresh salad, very yummy indeed!

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Thriving or Surviving?

It’s been one of those special, life working in sync with me days today! I had to come to London this week to check out my tenants. On Monday I read that http://www.gothamgal.com was going to be in London at the same time and I thought wow I’d love to interview Joanne for my “are you surviving or are you thriving story” – within a few hours we were confirmed for today at 1pm. Got to the airport at 7am this morning only to be told that TAP was on strike, thanks to who ever it was that guided me to BA for this booking my flight was as smooth as butter melting on a non grease pan.

Joanne is a natural born Thriver! One of those people that you just want to spend time with. Her optimism and varied interests inspired me enormously. We covered survival tactics, optimism, non negociable points of life that we operate in survival mode. Turning points and how we operate at those turning points in our lives but most of all we Thrived.

What is it that makes you Thrive? how do you know when you are Surviving? is it a way of being that comes naturally to some? how do we pass it on or pass it forward? I’d love to hear your thoughts,

it takes courage to do less…………

I was inspired by Zen Habits post today………………..”I’d argue that by focusing on quality, you could work less and still have a higher impact……………….. I should note: this takes courage, to do less. You have to shed all the old ideas of working harder and working more and being more productive. You have to forget about what others think about your work habits, and instead think about the impact the work has on the world and your life. You have to change the way you do things, and that’s never easy.”

It’s that age old saying “focus on quality vs quantity”, “creating something great rather than just being busy”. Most of all for me it’s TRUST. Trust was the word I dedicated to 2009, its allowed me to find the flow to work with life in a way that I’m no longer bull dozing my way into making things happen. I got really good at that way of being but that approach always left me feeling empty and anxiously feeling “now what’s next?” It took me way way longer than I had anticipated to peal away the layers of my conditioning and start to discover and play with what truly mattered in my daily life. Allowing TRUST to filter through my life each day, trust in setting an intention that has meaning and purpose. Trust that what I do everyday allows me to keep on the path of walking my talk!  Trust that I am proud of me, my life and how I choose to live it each day! TRUST its a big powerful word that I’m deeply grateful for!

“Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius – and a lot of courage – to move in the opposite direction.” – E.F. Schumacker

Here’s the link for anyone wanting to read the article in full: http://zenhabits.net/2009/09/8-ways-doing-less-can-transform-your-work-life/